Thanks Grit- I will respond to your comments when I calm down a bit. H called me this morning and I need advice.
First in good spirits..little chit chat..then he brings up the lease again. I said we have a lot to consider before you move home. I told him that under no circumstances is he moving back into our home with the OW still in the picture.
He starts getting defensive..saying "what are you talking about".."I am talking about May moving back in...I won't be talking to her in May.". Pretty much saying he is still talking to her now. I say "if you are talking to her now..you are not coming back home". He says "my question doesn't make any sense"..I ask him "what question?"..and he says "I can't talk now..I am trying to find where I am going in this awful weather."
I said "I thought you were done with your lying." He responded that he was. He said "Me and OW aren't giving eachother cold stares..I think we are both relieved that she is leaving." I know him..and I know he is still lying. He is talking to her again.
I need to know how to address this. I got off the phone with him saying that we need to discuss this later. What do I say? What doesn't he get? No us with her in the picture!!!!! He is worse than a heroin addict. I am so annoyed that he continues to try to lie and then deflect it back pretending I am crazy. How can I say this to him without being completely antagonistic. I don't want to play these games with him. He is completely turning me off..(if I couldn't be turned off anymore). I cannot help but to see him as pathetic. I know I know. I need to calm down.
