how do i keep my hope alive?

[trytryagain]

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i've actually already said a lot of those things to my H. i've accepted a lot of responsibility for being critical and resentful and have apologized to him for making him feel judged. i do not believe that that is what has him feeling so low. last time we met up he said there was not one single aspect of his life that was going well for him. the situation with us, he HATES his new job and is miserable there, his family is experiencing problems due to his 14 year old sister acting out and rebelling to the point where it's tearing his family apart, and he also said he feels like he has no real friends to lean on. i KNOW the last few months have been hard on him.

with very few exceptions, i have been nothing BUT supportive and have been there for him to lean on when he's had a bad day or is feeling low. he has thanked me on numerous occassions for my words of encouragement and my support. he knows i am around to be supportive but i think he's getting to a point now where he's distancing himself from my support, and i'm not really understanding that.

and i also have told him that if nothing else, this separation has made me realise things about myself that i was not happy about and has given me an opportunity to grow and learn who i want to be, and to actively pursue that person.

i don't really need or want him to own up to anything when we meet tonight. i'm not at that point anymore. looking backwards will not help us move forward.