I just wanted to say hi, and wish you well with things.
Your sitch sounds very similar to mine. Though I just started straight in here at MLC!! I guess things had just gotten that much further down the road before I found this board.
I too am going through the L's right now, and child support etc. Not what I ever wanted to do, but realizing that I have to be tough on behalf of my children and theirs and our future and follow through on it.
We did move out of the dream house, which like yours was full of mixed memories. The only difference being that I didn't have a say in it, because we'd sold it just a few weeks before H left. It was a nice house, and the kids do miss it, but to be honest, it was like a breath of fresh air getting out of there too. It was a suburb house, and the neighbours got all gossipy, and there were to many mixed memories. My kids are thriving in their new environment... still tough for me to start over, but I guess that would have happened no matter where I was. I did buy, but then I feel sort of "locked in" by the immediacy of the decision I made, so maybe renting for a while is not all that bad. Besides, if you look for a bit and get lucky, you can sometimes rent a much nicer place than you can buy.
I know the feeling after the L of the "purging cry". Last visit I didn't even cry (though I was sad). And yes, it does feel like D is inevitably moving forward. But you know, nothing is written in stone. Do what you need to do, and the rest will happen however that is.
Anyways, just stopping by, and hope you find good ways through all this, I totally hear where you're at!!
