help some advice plse..have i finished it for good

[saffie]

I'm not shocked. My uncle was a CD - he owned his own haulage business and hung around with great big manly lorry drivers, but in his private time he was a CD. Don't think he ever felt he wanted a sex change though and it was always kept a private thing. In fact I can remember when his W found out - their children were in their teens by then.

My dad, (it was his older brother by 9 years), obviously did know something was amiss though as he had always jokingly told me that Uncle X was a 'funny'fella; he always said it in a kind way with a wry smile on his face though.

I feel very sad for your H and you.

From what you post it makes me feel that your h finds it hard to accept that others may love him so maybe he does need clear signals that a way home would be welcome?

Maybe he is scared what this OW might make public about him if he were to move home?

(((((hugs))))))