How do I act?

[Surviving03]

Well he showed up this morning and just picked up a toothbrush and grabbed some food... So I went to work and I talked to his first sergeant asking about what is the deal with moving him into the dorms and I asked if they have to approve his leave to go visit OW while we are trying to get this paper work done? So then I got a call from my H commander (the BIG boss) and he asked me if I had any email traffic between H and OW, I said I did but I wasnt prepared to get him into trouble as I know if I do, I can kiss all this civilized agreement of who gets what and all the stuff I can have goodbye, but the Commander told me that if he has reasonable suspision that H is going to visit OW, he will place an order that restricts him from going there... and as far as the military is concerned, whether i like it or not, they have an obligation to stop that kind of behavior since we are still married. He wants me to send him the emails

So H IM's me and says that the commander talked to him and told him that he knows what he is up to and that he is denying him any leave until after this paperwork is completed. He didnt tell him yet that he cant go to vegas, not until i send him the emails with some proof. Well H is pretty mad, he said that everyone just has their own opinions of why he wants a D and we are all jumping to conclusions about OW. He said as of right now he still wants to keep this civilized and keep everything the same as we had previously agreed on, as far as stuff im getting, and not filing for awhile so I can maintain my military benefits for a little bit, but he said if he starts to feel like I am TRYING to get him in trouble then I will spend all the money he gave me on lawyer fees and this will get ugly... soooo... not sure what to do... hmmm