You are a caring, trustworthy woman and trying to be fair with an alien who doesn't give a rat's ass. I did the same - made a decent offer with my ex during the first year of taxes. My kindness never ever did me any good. He cared about nothing - only himself. It was always "all about him" - just as your ex is behaving.
So - my advice is - do what is best for you financially and let him deal with his own mess. If it makes you feel better to be fair - do it - but do it for YOU!
And the advice about putting it in your agreement as to how to file in the future is right on the money! DO IT!
It amazes me that the person we were married to for so long can behave this way but I see it time and time again. They are out for themselves and that's that! Especially when they're already in a new R.
