I guess I just need to provide whatever she needs for reassurance and then sit tight. What should I expect next?
You can expect, from your wife, over the next week or two alternating fits of "syrupy sweet" and "blind rage," as she struggles to regain CONTROL of you and her fantasy. You have upset the apple cart and the equilibrium, and she will try VERY hard to re-establish it, by whatever means she feels might be effective. (Notice, she already tried "nice/sweet" -- expect livid anger and spew next. If you don't respond to THAT, she'll switch tactics back yet again).
