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[awest1217]

One thing to be careful of is that you don't discipline the girls because you want to be the cool parent. I know my S is young, but I have worked with children for 10+ years and I will tell you that children feel more safe in an environment where they have consistant rules and consistant consequences for those rules. Yelling may not be the answer, but we all get pushed so much that raising our voice does happen. Don't be afraid you won't be the cool parent just because you have rules and consequences. They may not like it that much now, but they do appreciate it and honestly they will feel safer with you. Also it looks better because you will have a stable environment.

Also if you want you can sit down with the girls and ask them what they think the rules should be and the consequences for those rules. Type them up. Many times they will be harder on themselves than you would be, but you can tone down some of the consequences and then the key is when they are with you to make sure you stick to it. With D7 this will also help because she came up with the rules and the best consequences for her so with the ADHD she could (not always) become more willing to follow the rules because you stick with them and she helped to make them.