Thank you everyone for the input. You are all probably right. It just seems so unlike the person I married but essentially that's the problem isn't it.
For now I'll wait and see what else comes up but Puppy if you think of anything please share.
Jasper - the email of the tax forms went to her work email address not directly to anyone but good thinking.
Allen - I've never dealt with teenagers but you are right I can't trust W right now. If I could she would be telling me about her hour long phone calls with OM!
I had a really rough night last night so I went up to bed early to avoid any contact. I'm pretty cool on the outside but my stomach is constantly in knots. That visit with the L shook me up. We talked about staying in my home and he tells me if she really wants me out she'll make something up about domestic violence.
He says it happens all the time because the law where we live just assumes it's true to protect the W and they worry about the facts later. At first I wouldn't think her capable of that but now I don't know.
He also showed me the amount of child support I would pay if she got my D in a custody battle...of course I'd pay it but I didn't need that stress added to my life right now.
Brutal stuff
M 40 W 39 D 4 M 5 years Bomb dropped 08/09 In house separation