i think i am giving in. i have nothing left to believe in as far as my H and I. i feel like our three months apart has put such a split between us......... he is focused on starting a new life and one that does not include me. once he is done school and working in september and making money, he will be going out all of the time, and maybe the OW will finally appear, and he will be happy to have a whole new life... one without me.
Big hugs. I am in the same spot. Worry about the split. It's 3 months for me also. But just think, we'll be having babies soon... many wonderful things can change for us then. And our WHs might, just might, come around.
Be careful not to write the future. It's better to be in the present.
We've stopped talking about the potential OW. Have you given up on the idea of finding out about this? While I think you need to put your serenity and well being first, knowing the truth can be empowering for a LBS. Plus with the correct diagnosis of WAS, you can more finely tune your DBing efforts. It's hard to tell with your H if it's a midlife crisis or other sort of breakdown..or another person. I mean, why would you H be scared of being a father? Especially when his parents had a good marriage?
You might get some tips from the Infidelity pages...especially on recognising the signs of and busting affairs.
