lol I love it rr. THanks we'll just see where that wall ends up.
More positives - I must say. I was in a good mood after the seder - just proud of myself - and the HUG. Pity hug or not, IT'S THE FIRST AFFECTION I RECEIVED FROM HIM WITHOUT ASKING. And I got a touch on the back after that.
So we watched tv and I noticed a dance of body language. At first, we were on separate ends of the living room clinging to our respective cats. Then I decided to stop hiding out and move toward H so I went to the couch nearer to his chair.
I thought he would go to bed as it got later, but I continued to laugh and have fun. Not only did he say he wasn't tired (he ALWAYS says he's tired and needs to do more work or go to bed -(part of the wall I guess) he said he wasn't sleepy and would be up for a while (due to the full stomach? lol).
And then he asked to move to the couch. I said sure he said well we can't both fit on the couch. I got up to do something came back and he was on half the couch leaving room for me.
People - REMEMBER HIS BELOVED CAT? THE ONE WHO GOT A VALENTINE? THE ONE WHO GETS ALL THE LOVE AND AFFECTION IN THIS HOUSE? HE ACTUALLY LEFT THE CHAIR WITH THE CAT TO SIT ON THE COUCH. WHERE I WAS SITTING.
According to him, he wanted to "stretch out" but he didnt, he sat on the couch - with me.
Compare this to months ago when he would jump away if I got even close to him.
Come on people,I don't have much to get excited about = this is it, SO HUMOR ME!~
Oh, and when he asked to come to the couch I poked fun and said he had to apologize for storming out on us yesterday - he did.
Oh don't worry he's still going to have to face that one in MC.
BUT THIS IS CRAZY I THOUGHT WE WERE DONE THIS WEEK. I AM SEASICK FROM THIS DANG ROLLERCOASTER.
And yes, FM, I want to jump his bones right now. But that could be the seder wine talking. But it does leave me wanting more so I have to be stronger than ever now.
Wow there was me returning worried all hell was let loose and you'd be staring on WANTED programs..
Amazing news hun so pleased and proud for you, looks like the wall is going into the up and down phase, bit wearing I know but it will come down if you keep your cool!
Two lots of affection is a biggy, believe me if he didnt want to touch you he wouldnt what ever he says..
Maybe see if he would like an evening off seeing S to give you and him a bit of space, might be worth putting some thought into it, or maybe arranging one day/eve to do something nice for the three of you to do!
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And yes, FM, I want to jump his bones right now. But that could be the seder wine talking. But it does leave me wanting more so I have to be stronger than ever now.
All this "f***ing Passover" talk must have been taken literally by your hormones.
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H4L, affection truly is a reason for optimism, and I believe that a physical connection can cut through so much of the mental crap that sticks to relationships. I can buy the up-and-down wall theory.
I do think it's a good idea to create some space though.
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H4L, this is the reason that I told you to remain consistent with the things I told you for the next four weeks and then re-evaluate progress once done. That way you will get an accurate reading.
Keep it up. He sees you growing a backbone (and secretly, he likes it.) You keep working on you.
More positives - I must say. I was in a good mood after the seder - just proud of myself - and the HUG. Pity hug or not, IT'S THE FIRST AFFECTION I RECEIVED FROM HIM WITHOUT ASKING. And I got a touch on the back after that.
WOW. That is big, I think! Drink it in, but stay strong in your plan.
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So we watched tv and I noticed a dance of body language. At first, we were on separate ends of the living room clinging to our respective cats.
I'm sorry, but that is just TOO funny- your "respective cats"???BWAHAHHAHA
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and he was on half the couch leaving room for me.
People - REMEMBER HIS BELOVED CAT? THE ONE WHO GOT A VALENTINE? THE ONE WHO GETS ALL THE LOVE AND AFFECTION IN THIS HOUSE? HE ACTUALLY LEFT THE CHAIR WITH THE CAT TO SIT ON THE COUCH. WHERE I WAS SITTING.
According to him, he wanted to "stretch out" but he didnt, he sat on the couch - with me.
Compare this to months ago when he would jump away if I got even close to him.
Double WOW. You're beating the cat! Hooray! Sorry, I know it's serious, but the cat thing-- a valentine- ?? I love that he was the one who made the move here. That is huge, HUGE!
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BUT THIS IS CRAZY I THOUGHT WE WERE DONE THIS WEEK. I AM SEASICK FROM THIS DANG ROLLERCOASTER.
I bet- you've been through the ringer lately. Reading his behavior, though, maybe he's just totally confused about what he wants now- maybe whatever you're doing is starting to cause him to question what he really wants. He certainly seems to be drawing closer to you. Just take care of yourself so that if he (temporarily) draws back or lashes out, that you've got a full metal jacket on to deflect. I feel happy for you and hope you get more good stuff!
When the men on the chessboard Get up and tell you where to go; And you've just had some kind of mushroom And your mind is moving slow; Go ask Alice... I think she'll know.
When the men on the chessboard Get up and tell you where to go; And you've just had some kind of mushroom And your mind is moving slow; Go ask Alice... I think she'll know.
