i always thought it was so special that my hubby was getting baby fever... we talked about names, how we wanted to raise them, registering for baby gifts, the baby's baptism, every day and every night parenting activities... and now... none of it will exist...
It really hurts, the death of that future and those dreams.. hopefully with time, new dreams emerge for all of us.
Originally Posted By: Babydoll
No our H's do not realize how much more work is involved in making a family work, if we are not together. that scares me too... if they run away now, how will they react when they have to work ten times harder to be a father.
Quite.
Originally Posted By: Babydoll
do send him that email and see what his idea of helping you out entails... maybe this is a baby step of his reaching out. if nothing else, he can help you with baby.
I am tempted to accept the offer of help...but I am wary. In reality I don't need him. I want my H, not a "gofer". And I'm not inclined to do something because it might help HIM. I need to help ME.I think this is where I need to take a hard stance, otherwise I could let myself in for drama and backsliding.
I wish my H was reading DB too. At last check he was reading Jung! and some other philosophical tracts.
It worried me that the friend who he has been staying with since the bomb is now taking a "these things just happen" stance - he tried to get my WH to reconcile with me, but has now given up, I reckon. Fair enough. What do you know about the people surrounding your husband right now?
