OK. A lot to say...and no time. My apologies for the brevity:
Back on picking up your D6. I'm confused about your previously stated concern over her staying up too late or not having a coat, yet when you say you are ill and have the opportunity to avoid exposing her to a sick person who is contagious/feverish (you!) by having her stay with your STBXW, you do everything to get her and re-expose her to whatever she gave you in the first place. This sounds a lot less like the "concern" you profess and more about something else a little more selfish. Perhaps you left out some info. that puts a difference slant on it, but from here, it doesn't look good.
Originally Posted By: StupidRomeo
1. Her b.day is coming up in 2 weeks, should I just say H.Bday through email/text and nothing else? or get her a little something? Invite her to dinner etc.
No. If your habit in the past was to ignore her BDay, then send her a simple HBD. Otherwise, getting her something or going to dinner is "pressure" and it is definitely not going dark (or even dark grey).
Originally Posted By: StupidRomeo
2. Should I offer her a chance to come and talk to me about the issues so I can validate her? I didn't do this last time we talked. Like a dumb person I tried to make her see it my way and ended up doing all the talking...
Whatever you're smoking must be good. I think you're too angry right now to actually successfully pull off that conversation (assuming it would be a good thing, even if you could).
Originally Posted By: StupidRomeo
3. Changing gears completely, should I file for D and be the 'aggresor' (going with gucci's philosophy). It could back fire in how she percieves it and then makes me pay for it literally in terms of alimony, child support etc
Egads! It's easier to do and will make you feel better for a while, but it will kill any chance you have. If that's what you want, then go for it. But be prepared for regret. Again, see an attorney, but don't file, don't drop the D bomb, etc. unless you are really ready for the result.
Originally Posted By: StupidRomeo
hard to tell what she's thinking or doing in the background
