SR, I wish I could advise you on strategy, but I think it depends so much on the sitch and the individuals. I'm sure gucci's approach works in some cases, but it could make things worse in others.
About the birthday, I'd keep it to helping your D to buy her a gift and make a card. You could also invite her for a short visit to have cake with you and your D too...this would be mostly for D's benefit (it's important for children to see their parents' birthdays celebrated IMO).
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
