Nicole 8: Also, when he was here the other day and I ask my h "if I told him to march into the house and stay here, would he?", and he said "probably". My db coach said that I shouldn't tell him what to do. He needs to make that decision on his own and he needs to win me and know that he could lose me. Makes sense to me. I'm not some mail order bride....I'm nicole. Totally awesome and worth winning. smile
SO TRUE!
Don't be scared if you need to be dark for a few days. H's panic is also from his depression. You did not cause his depression and his refusal to alleviate the symptoms with meds. You have nothing to lose by allowing yourself some peace part of the week. He knows you're still there. Probably he is TOO secure in that.
