How do I act?

[Surviving03]

True story rr22... I couldnt agree more. Well this C prob is a quack, thing is, this counseling is not to help us, its ONLY for the purpose of the ERD for me to go home. So they said what will happen next is I will have a one on one appt, I will tell my side, then we will go once together to make sure everyone is on the same page with wanting the ERD and then they will go forth with the paperwork. They told my H if I didnt want to leave, i didnt have to. But I do want to. Im tired of being disrespected. I told his work I want them to move him out to the dorms, just waiting on a response from them.

I ended up kicking H out the house yesterday. He went to lodging on base. I told him that I knew about the phone calls to OW and that I made it clear that it was something I wouldnt tolerate and he crossed the line and I wont be disrespected in my own house and that if he wanted to write her or call her he needed to go do it somewhere else. He was very resistant to leave but after about 15 minutes he finally agreed to leave, got all pissy, came in here and deleted all of our pictures together off of his facebook, packed a bag and stormed out. Then about an hour later, I am on FB and he is on there too and he starts to IM me, says just so you know Im really mad about this but my room is pretty nice... I ignore him... then he calls the house about 30 minutes later... He said "i heard some sirens, just making sure you arent doing anything stupid" I said H what do u want? He started telling me about how nice his room is, and i should come see it... then says, i mean like, you should come stay here and i will stay at the house... i said no thanks, is that all? and he said bye and hung up. I think he is shocked that i put my foot down and kicked him out. But I am serious... he gets away with EVERYTHING cause I want to be with him so bad... he always has. It feels good to have some control back in this. I still love him, I still wish our marriage could work. But I am done being disrespected, and I think he sees that now. We will see how today goes, he said he was gonna come by and get the rest of his stuff but he wont have anywhere to take it yet.. so we will see.