Sasha, do you really think OM has the maturity to make a marriage work?
He TRASHED yours from your perception at the moment beyond repair and you want to go to HIM?
HE should be the LAST person on EARTH you would give any consideration to, he had NO RESPECT for your MARRIAGE
Good to hear from you btw :0
Yup, he is testing you. It hurts doesn't it? To keep trying to love someone only to have them push you away?
You should take a crack at what a lot of other posters here have to put up with .. not ONLY are they getting pushed away but their HUSBAND or WIFE is having SEX with someone ELSE... would you try under THOSE conditions?
Really imagine your husband out there having sex with another woman, lying to you about it, and you keep trying to work on your marriage.. could you handle that?
Just trying to give you some perspective. Sasha, you don't have kids yet it sounds like, but a word to the wise, your husband's current test is NOTHING compared to the tests your children will give you.. particularly when they hit teenager years.
Keep working on him. I would move out anyways. He is hurt clearly... but he is trying to come out of the rut he's in and be a human being. This sort of hurt takes time to heal.
And question.
You said your OM is writing you letters?
Why on EARTH are you allowing them and reading them?
Wow
If they are EMAIL, you need to get a NEW EMAIL ADDRESS
If they are written snail mail letters - SEND THEM BACK UNOPENED... do NOT READ them.. just send them back so he can see that you don't want to hear from a man that may have ruined your marriage permanently.
Are you hiding these letters? What did you do with them? What if you invite your H to your place he actually comes by there and he SEES those LETTERS hunh?
Don't read them, just send them back.
Has this guy even apologized for the mess he has made of your marriage? Has he ANY IDEA how much it hurts to experience infidelity on the marital level?
