Well I can tell you, Pearl, I'm not waiting around years. Not happening. Just like Meatloaf said, I'd do anything for love, but I won't do that.
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Some people don't want to expose because their WAS will feel too much damage will be done and not want to come back.
My gut is telling me there is a lot of ^this^ going on. Not so much from the A exposure, but just in the W's mind. If she felt so strongly to do whatever she did (even if she felt it was an instant mistake), she wouldn't come crying to me to take her back. She would take it out on herself and think I was better of with someone else. That's what has me concerned about the packing up of her stuff. She would see that as an ending point.
I'm not sure if it was you or Mindfull who said women want what they can't have. But you are assuming the woman will fight for what she wants. And My W has such a defeatist attitude, I'm not sure she would fight for anything.
--Fergie
If I'm not mistaken, I think the "wife" knows she can have you at any time, that makes you boring & conquered. If she has such low self-esteem and a possibly a problem loving herself, she probably looks down on you for pursuing her and wanting her to be your wife and fighting for your marriage. So what do you need to do? YOu need to act as if this is the best thing that could have happened, this is a good thing, give up, let go and start dating other women. What happens? She sees you are moving on, no longer waiting for her to make the choice to come back or not, you are no longer boring & conquered, you are no longer waiting, you are no longer her's. Since she doesn't have you anymore, you become something she might want, you didn't have a lot of value before but when she sees you dating other women, that bumps up your value several notches, all of a sudden you have value when previously you didn't, other women want you for them to be dating you, if they want you, you must be high value, your wife pursues high value, she wants what she can't have, she wants you.
totally counter-intuitive, I will agree with you but this happens too many times for it to be coincidental.
- and yes I've been busy, that's why I haven't checked in, aside from the day job, finishing the reno work in my basement and life in general, it's been busy.
How's the plan doing?
When are you done packing? That's when you can contact her to pick them up and offer to load them up in her vehicle and be very nice to her when you do it.
