mybe its better the two of you never discussed how you would have a family... at least now you are not thinking of every step and how you planned it to be. Most of our close friends and my sister had babies within the last year or two... and i always thought it was so special that my hubby was getting baby fever... we talked about names, how we wanted to raise them, registering for baby gifts, the baby's baptism, every day and every night parenting activities... and now... none of it will exist... he probably would continue to act as if things were normal, but i cant allow him to play house without being my H. maybe you were better off...
My H's parents are married for more than 40 years, and look at him now? no respect for marriage and women for that matter...
No our H's do not realize how much more work is involved in making a family work, if we are not together. that scares me too... if they run away now, how will they react when they have to work ten times harder to be a father.
as for the therapist, i did talk to the one over the telephone and she seemed to agree with me, but truth be told, patients only can make the session what it is. as he says, and i said once to him (he remembers everything i said and throws it in my face), a therapist can not make him love me. This counselor flat out said to me,does he realize that we are pro-marriage?
he is so selfish and helpless and childlike right now he cannot see past himself and see that any marriage takes work. He truly has convinced himself that our marriage was bad. meanwhile i always believed he loved me an ounce more than i couldve ever loved him.
sorry to take over your sitch
do send him that email and see what his idea of helping you out entails... maybe this is a baby step of his reaching out. if nothing else, he can help you with baby.
isnt it hard b/c its not just about us... its about the baby...
Stay strong... dont you wish that they would be forced to read DB and DR and see that marriages can be healed and move forward stronger than ever! and instead of them being so scared the woul come to terms with their fears and anxieties!
wish i had magic powers to shake them and go in their heads hearts and tell them to WAKE UP!!!!
