H is still pretty mad, but the things he is saying is leading me to think that HE is rethinking his position.
He is claiming that he hadn't made a final decision on the separation and that I hit the nail in the coffin by telling his family and our friends what's going on. He seems to think there's no going back from that, and he seems to be really fretting about that idea, that I might have made it final.
Of course talking to his family didn't make anything final, but the fact that the idea of it is really seeming to shock him awake is giving me a bit of hope.
Of course he's still been making me miserable every chance he gets today over my spilling to the family, but it's taking on a more desperate air, and less a "I'm so happy with my decision" type of attitude he's been having lately. Though he is trying to blame the separation and potential D on me still (annoying, considering I have done nothing but state over and over that I DO NOT want a D and that I DO want to work on our marriage).
I don't think he realized how seriously I have been taking this separation (or whatever round-about term he's trying to call it, and believe me he has a lot of them; non-romantic relationship, platonic relationship, platonic parenting, non-emotional relationship). What I am trying to get through to him is that this is no joke, I am taking this VERY seriously. I am not moving to WA as a "platonic couple" (or whatever) where this OW happens to reside, where I've never even been and don't know a soul. It's no joke to be messing with a spouses security in the marriage just weeks before a cross-country move like that!! He needs to figure things out FAST and stop playing word games and blame games if he has any desire to keep his family together. And I hope he does.
