What worked for me was that it was okay for HER to say what was on her mind, and I validated the FEELINGS. However when she crossed the line and started saying the things that weren't true, I just held up my finger and said very calmly that I wasn't going to listen to anything any more that was not true and walked away.
Oh she got mad and pissy at first, but after awhile, she realized that she was getting mad at an empty room. Don't justify why what she's saying isn't true, that will feed her drama button.
Be assertive and firm but not angry. I notice from the guys when they do that, they're wives don't become as hostile any more.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
