We can take it in turns to boost each other's morale and keep on track :-) I'm only repeating the advice I've read here on this site...but am glad it's helping. I do think DBing is also essentially a good way of helping you pick yourself up the floor after the shock that is a WAS situation.
I have only given up pursuing my WAH (reasoning,begging, pleading, screaming, sarcasm...it's a long list!!) not from strengh but because it was destroying me. It was hurting ME so much...our last blow up was horrific & I really saw myself as a lunatic. That explains my fear about my next 'meeting' with WAH...
About forgetting... I don't know how you do that.. You know, BD, my H is forever in my thoughts. I would say every minute of the day. Every thought, everything I say, every move I make, even the the littlest things --- he is 'by my side'... It makes me teary thinking about it. He was my companion through life, and it's hard to break this habit.
You know, from the start, for me it's like my real husband, not the alien here now, never got off the plane...like the plane crashed or he didn't make it or he's still overseas and I'm stll waiting for him to come back...that way I protect my love for him. Delusional?
Well, we haven't lived together now for 6 months (3 months separated by work, then 3 months separated since bomb)... I worry thats a LOT of distance.
Anyways, sorry this has turned into being all about me!! Just sharing..hope it helps... and I have found it easier to stop thinking about what he is doing ever second of the day by "going DIM/DARK". That means you have more strength and energy to think about YOU and BUB. Also, as your pregnancy advances, you will just get more and more tired (if you follow the usual pattern). At 7months, the pregnancy is making itself very known on my physical abilities and general energy levels!!!
