Next time, ask a store employee to escort you to your car -- better yet a security person, if possible. Your H is certainly one to keep an eye on, like an unpredictable viper.
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So of course, I got nasty email back from him which I ignored.
Very good. Just keep ignoring his taunts. But take measures when he's actually around, like when in the store. Hang in there, you're learning well how to deal with the bully now.
He just emailed me apparently half hour ago, and did give me the itemized list of expenses. Says since I told him we'd let the judge decide the financial stuff; I was refusing to pay for stuff and he didn't have to give me the expenses, and says I'm lying about not knowing what the therapy expenses were and all that. He's never told me one bit about any of that, but supposedly I knew and was lying. But then he did give me the list, I think at some level didn't he realize the L told me to do that ? (he's an L too) I was thinking about having someone escort me, but didn't want to make a fuss or anything. I'm scared of him, but not super scared of him. I was in public and everything.
Oh, needless to say, I just saved the email and didn't reply....
I can't believe how much rage this man has. As sweet as you are I know that most of it has to be directed at himself. He is getting even more scary if you ask me. I almost wonder if you don't need to get some sort of restraining order against him since he seems to have become a bit of a stalker.
Watch out for yourself.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Kids are home--loving it!!! We have nonstop plans this weekend, and if I'm not busy at work tomorrow then I'm going to try to maybe take a half day so I can spend more time with the kids.
Picked them up yesterday at X's apt. complex. X didn't take any time off with the kids so D10 was running around with her friends yesterday, it was super sunny and no suntan lotion. So she got sunburned. I was concerned about that when I picked her up and as always wanting to get out of there before X showed up from work (already had my yelling quota for a lifetime). So didn't notice that D10 didn't have her glasses on.
We couldn't find them this am, time to leave for work, and then she said I think I left them at dad's. So I emailed him this am saying what happened and I will look for them tonight, but if they're at his place let me know and/or he could drop them off with D10 at daycare until 5.
He emails me back this afternoon: OW dropped them off for D10.
Then something like: As I'm always telling you, you need to not rush off before checking to make sure the kid's have all their stuff, blah blah.
I just emailed back I think the kids should just pack or have packed their stuff in their backpacks.
D10 had her glasses when I picked her up tonight. She said Dad dropped them off, and said he didn't say anything about her sunburn. Well, one of them lied, and my D10 doesn't lie but guess it's possible she didn't want to hurt me, but...I think he just said that about OW to hurt me. Oh, well, doesn't hurt like it used to, so progress anyway...
Having a great weekend. I took off a half day Friday to spend more time with the kids. D10's daycare was closed for the day b/c of Good Friday, so didn't want to leave them alone all day. We went to see the Train your Dragon movie, and I highly recommend it if you have kids!!! We'll probably get the DVD when it comes out too--D10 loves dragons! Then went to Easter Art workshop today, grocery shopping for Easter dinner. Tonight is the Easter Bunny's visit, and sunrise service tomorrow. Glad I have the kids this Easter--X had them last so it worked out fair.
Hope everyone is having a wonderful Easter weekend and gets lots of chocolate!!!
Heh! Me and me S's caught the very same movie this afternoon too. Yes, it's a very good little movie -- I was even surprised at how well it came off as a 3D movie. S5 now loves Toothless.
We also did our Easter Egg Hunt at our church this morning. Great minds think alike, huh?
I'm so glad you three have been having a great Easter weekend.
Well, I emailed X yesterday and asked him about dropping off the kids 2 hours late Saturday. A friend is competing in the local Highland games, so a couple of us plan to go watch, and I thought the kids esp. D10 might enjoy it. The big parade of bands is at 11 and it's an hour drive so wouldn't be able to make it by noon. X emailed me today and said ok, good to be flexible sometimes (um, yeah, he's leaving for 10 days in a month with OW and won't be sticking to the schedule then, like for Father's day).
He told me the 4 ot appts. he scheduled for the next month, and he asks me when I'm going to start taking her since I'm asking for full custody. I emailed back I would like to start doing appts. on the days we have the kids, which if I get primary custody, would mean most of their appts. prob. But told him until Dec. when my year of probation is up, I can't be taking off every 2 weeks to OT without risking losing my job.
He emails back to me that that I told the job after my training was over I would take D10 to dr. appts. (Yep, that was when I was explaining how when she had bronchitis and I asked that he take her, he didn't and then tried to talk her out of it the next day (you don't really have to go do you?) as if a 10 year old tries to go to the dr. for fun or something. She told him she really really needed to go and then finally he did. I told the judge that, and said after training I would never depend on him to take her, and will take her myself on the days I have her, which is 100% true!
He then accused me b/c I took leave for jury duty and 3 hours on Good Friday (when D10's daycare was closed) that I've proved I can take leave (which btw I never told him either).
Then he said he's doing everything now (I guess b/c of the ot) and said since I'm not doing my part as a mom, OW has volunteered to take D10 to her ot appts. when he can't make it b/c of work. And I need to step up to the plate now, not in December.
I just don't understand how he could be so hateful. I actually cried at work a bit. One of my friends talked me down and said he's not right about anything else, why would I listen to his opinion about my parenting? Good point....And btw, did not reply to his email, even though it was so hard not to!!!
Jury duty should be an exception and as a state employee, he should know that. What an @ss he is!! Karen ignore him. And remember if you ever need too my number is on the alt and you can call. I will call you back if I need to.
You are such a great Mom.
Love ya, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
