Into my arms... #70

[awest1217]

I really think that it all comes down to how you ask the questions. If you ask why did you start a relationship with OW? Then he is probably going to shut down more. If you ask what made you look else where for a relationship? He might then be more willing to open up to discuss what he is feeling because the second is more about your relationship and not her and him. It sounds like he wants her out of the relationship because he does feel guilty and possibly he still hasn't gotten over her enough to talk about it. Either way I think it is great that you were able to talk and get over the anger more quickly. I just suggest thinking about how you word your questions. Take the list that you made and reword them so you are making them about your relationship and about how to not let this happen again instead about how he felt with her.