Yes, I think the biggest insight is to realize that what another person feels and thinks is legitimate and valid. A point that took me forever to learn. SO if someone genuinely feels wrongs then I have to take the necessary steps to repairs and reconcile that.

I like the fresh start, new house approach.

M38, H37
S3, S7
Together 15 yrs
Married 8 yrs
Bomb July 2008
Inhouse separation
"I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count)
Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)