Well Sunday was a fairly quiet normal day. I was waiting to see what my wife would do - if she would still try to contact the OM. Today when I got home from work, she gave me a nice meal like she always does (no greeting though as usual lately). Then I saw a message she wrote to the OM saying she'd call him tomorrow and then I told her that I needed to talk to her.

I gave her a form letter for her to send to the OM which reads "Ken and I want you to know that out of respect and love for my husband and children, I have come to realize that I must never see or talk with you again. My relationship with you was a cruel indulgence that Ken did not deserve. While I cannot completely repay Ken for the pain I have caused him, I will do my best to become the wife he has been missing. I care a great deal for my family and I would not want to do anything to risk their happiness. I will not make further contact with you and I do not want you to make any contact with me. Please respect my desire to end our relationship." But then she just ripped it up and threw it in the garbage. She then left to take our oldest daughter to music class and will be back in about an hour or so.

So unfortunately it appears the time has come for me to ask her to leave which I believe she will do since the OM has offered her his second empty house. I just hope and pray that I'm doing the right thing. I have heard some say it's easier to keep her than to get her back. Lord help me! I am so not ready for this. Am I doing the right thing?

My wife is asking for a divorce and I don't completely understand why.