WAW and me in 11th hour!!!!

[Ken62]

Thanks Sandi,

I have been reading some other threads including the one from ninelives and some things really ring true for my sitch too. My wife just informed me on Sat. night that I was very controlling in our M and she also has had a bad relationship with her dad and she also has seemed to get what ever she has wanted from me over the years.

She certainly seems like the controlling one now but I'm sure if I pointed that out to her that I would be shot down instantly. I have also been looking at mza8, gr8 day 2B alive, Lost_Dad and TeleDad sitches and can see a lot of similarities in those too.

I know that my W needs IC and right now she is not even considering it. I also know that my W is in an EA and has no desire to end it and is even planning on going back there this summer to be with OM. I like what you have said in these other sitches about her living in the fantasy world and until the EA ends that she is not likely to come out of the fog. From her perpsective we are already D and the court approval is just a formality that will happen in June.

What is your best advise for me going forward in the coming days, weeks and months? She has been warming up to me in the last few weeks but I don't know how to interpret that because she is in an EA.

Thanks,

Ken