Limited contact has not helped my situation out, I can't do NC because we have a daughter and everyday I drop her off at school my wife is there, and we go to the same church, so we see each there as well. I have tried to talking to her some, but not sure if it helps, but I think it is better than not talking.
Problem I have is she is worried things will go back to the way they were before she left and I have tried telling her I changed, but she has no way of seeing the changes I have made and also she thinks its an act, she left 1 year ago, so if I am acting, it has been a pretty good act for a year.
It seems to me that if you have Nc it just makes it easier for them to think you don't care and not think about getting back together and then when they get tired of being alone, they may start seeing someone else rather than trying to work it out with you.
Atom, how can you say that no- or limited-contact doesn't work, when you're not doing it as much as you could be?
I know it's counter-intuitive, folks, but this stuff WORKS. You HAVE to let them miss you!
Puppy
For months I went without talking to her about anything I absolutely didn't have to talk to her about,we have a 9 year old daughter together and when I drop her offf at school she is there, when i take her to chucrch, she is there.
I have tried to make my wife miss me, but it hasn't done anything to help, she lives with her sister and she is getting counseled by her and her father as well as others that divorce is the best thing to do, so any headway I make, gets shot down rather quickly.
