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You are probably right. I shouldn't have put it in there until today. I was out for a beer (or three) with my buddies and I just figured since she was asleep when I came home it was a good time.

I appreciate the feedback on what to say - it makes sense. She's gone with d to ILs house for dinner.

I wasn't asked to go more something like - 'what are you going to do while we are out'

Might get some intel tomorrow from the computer if she switches off her work laptop to use FB etc.


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Sorry Puppy, one more quick thought. If intel gathering is discovered prior to exposing the affair is it time to have that conversation then?

Sorry a bit freaked right now. This is so out of character for me (but necessary). Maybe I should have a exposure script ready?

Thoughts?


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Is it time to have WHICH conversation then?

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Sorry I'm not making sense. The full 'I know what you and OM are doing and I will not share my w or live in an open marriage, it stops by XXX or XXX'

Haven't figured it all out or would I just stay cool, deny and keep gathering. I thought the goal when exposing was to plan everything out to glare the light of day onto the affair.

I was thinking about what I might do - I would want to talk to OM and tell him to back off as well as let my family and w family in on the sitch as they are all pro m.

W also has a very close friend who is d godmother and would want m to work so I thought about talking to her.

I feel like I'm spinning a little now so sorry if I'm not making sense.


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If ONE method of intel gathering is discovered, then employ ANOTHER, until you have enough proof that you can effectively confront and expose.

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Okay, makes sense to me.


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Okay w found the recorder! I went out tonight and it's gone. It must have jarred loose or something.

It makes sense she got home from the gym and her parents show up...they never drop in. Then she left and went to their house. I remember now she went upstairs with MIL alone. Must have been showing her the recorder.

I have a huge knot in my stomach about this. She isn't saying anything but now I'm worried about what she might do with OM who is a cop!

Any ideas. I don't want to admit to it but should I confront with just the cell phone records and move this forward?


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My wife found the recorder and she was PISSED.

She also got over it.

Just use the line I suggested above.

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Well I can't help feeling I've blown it. W and OM always communicate by cell phone and now the only way I'd hear those calls is found out.

W has not said a word to me but I can feel it building. Email was clean and nothing in FB.

I had a sobering conversation with a lawyer today but at least I know my rights and what it will all cost me if it gets that far. I'm going to keep on I guess the way I have. It's tough to gather any other intel with taking care of D while W is out.


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there's the GPS option, and still other opportunities for other recorders...also PI if you wann shell out some cash...where there's a will there's a way...

Aside from that keylogger so you can view whatever you need...ie online banking, cc's, etc.

You haven't blown it at all...


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