I get Maria's point, I think, let's figure out what went wrong and allowed the affair to happen, that way in the future we can take safeguards to prevent it.

I would think knowing what the man was thinking is reasonable. Would like to avoid a repeat event, right?

I almost feel like it is manipulative of him to say that she is not doing enough. Did I read the above correctly?

Last edited by june72; 03/29/10 10:37 PM.
M38, H37
S3, S7
Together 15 yrs
Married 8 yrs
Bomb July 2008
Inhouse separation
"I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count)
Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)