You've done the hardest part, Tristan. You opened up yourself to the point your wife is ready to trust you.
RV's main advantage, I think, is that it helps both spouses truly empathize/understand the other. There's a bit of religious dogma, but it isn't overwhelming (I'm not Christian, so if we are OK with it I'm sure others could, too). See http://www.retrouvaille.org for the times in your state.
I didn't just get back to normal. I got better than normal. We still have some major obsticles, like you have with the EA, but connecting with my W in the way RV teaches has made possibilities where there were none or a few.
I really want to stress, I am not out of the woods. Today, we went to a divorce mediation meeting that became marriage counseling! Retrou will not solve past problems, but it gives a set of tools and so much more that can lead to it.
