Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

Dburt, your sitch is so similar to mine. Our problems have also been mostly financial. When I had my company I was making $100k per year and we lived comfortably. We both spent money on things we shouldn't have and got in a bit over our heads at times. You can imagine after my business closed how this affected me. That lead to my depression. Now I'm doing a job for a lot less money but that's ok for now. I know I will get back to where I want to be. When I get back to where I want to be I am going to be smarter. I've learned so much during the past couple of years. People make mistakes. It's how you deal with your mistakes that make you a better person. I know this now. I couldn't see this during my depression. Couldn't really see much during my depresssion to be honest with you.

For the past year when I didn't have a job, I did help aorund the house. I did most of the chores, grocery shopping, etc. I felt so bad that I didn't get a job and support my W financially that I felt like the least I could do was to do the house work. I want to support my W, not the other way around. I felt so good when my company was doing well that I was able to support my W financially. She was able to quit her job and work with me. I don't think she felt very fullfilled though. I know she missed her old job. Sad part is she now works for her father's company. I don't think she is totally in love with the job but she says she likes it. I know her better though.

I believe the reason my W left was my lack of a job, no doubt. She might bring up other things but noting more than any other couple deals with in their M. Damn depression. Unbelievable how much it can strangle a person. Oh to be able to go back two years and change the way I handled things. I know not to get into "what ifs". The past is the past. All I can do now is make changes for me to become a better person. So far so good.

You hit the nail on the head. Slow and steady...

Thanks dburt.