Did I blow it?

[koliver0821]

Out of curiosity, what things did you need to work on? It sounds like to me that she cheated on you. She refuses to be exclusive (atleast at this time) and when you mentioned thats what you would need in order to she kinda flies off the handle.

I will say this though, starting over is interesting. A divorce is not necessary and in any way of not a logical way of thinking if you are starting over. Purely from a financial standpoint, its not starting over. Heck, she is waiting to get a paycheck to get a divorce.

If she wants to start over, you both better start by coming clean. I truly believe she wants to start over for one reason only. So you can move on without questioning her cheating on you. End of Story. Please tell me there is something to learn. Cause by the way it looks, you could very well be in the same spot a later date.

Im sorry if im coming across as Johnny Doomsdayer, but I feel its necessary. Its really time for the games to stop being played. She needs to grow up.

I say this with all respect. I started over with my wife as well. But I can tell you for darn sure I let her know that her affair wasnt OK with me and the fact that she blamed me for her cheating ways was perhaps the lowest thing I can think a human can do to someone. Now thats not to say I didnt have some growing up to do. I needed to step up and be a team player. And thats what I did. But I did so by putting my Big boy pants on. It sounds like your almost there to do the same.

Make It Happen

God Bless.