At this point I don't know what I want. I'm not married to this woman, we don't have kids or shared assets. I love her but I also think that there has to be a point where you say enough is enough. Its clear she has no respect for me at all.
Thoughts? Advice?
read that part that I've highlighted, that instinct that you are choosing to ignore because of love. Do you want a chance at love, real love with her or anyone else? You have to love yourself first. Don't be mean or punitive to your ex gf but stop contacting her, stop pursuing her and stop fighting with her. Just move on with your life, trust that instinct, the one that most people dismiss. There is a point where you have to say enough is enough and move on, it's ok, you're allowed, in fact moving on is what's best for both of you. You rebuild that backbone of yours and stop allowing her to treat you poorly and you she learns to start respecting you again and if she wants you she'll pursue you and you will let her know what you will tolerate and what you won't tolerate as far as her behavior goes and you will be respectful of her as well.
Stop being a doormat, you deserve better but the trick is you give yourself what you deserve, don't wait for anyone else to give it to you.
