let him help. maybe you two can discuss how you'd ideally wish he couldhelp... and just be open to the fact that he may disagree or have different suggestion... he should take responsibility in both you and the baby's life. i agree with you in trying to figure out how to deal with everything with out the L's. H and i agreed to do the same. Why make this harder than it should be. reply to his email and basically just say that you would appreciate his help!
I am happy to OK his offer of helping.
But HOW on earth can he help me?
I don't even know where to begin...
The only thoughts I have are:
-we can book into some classes together so he gets up to scratch on birthing or breastfeeding or caring for a baby (but that's really giving up my DIMness & expose me to more pain and distress)
- all the baby stuff is bought.. so..nothing there...
- he can't help with money until he finds a job (he is trying hard)
so what does that leave? Maybe I have a mental block but how can an WAH help his pregant wife when he hasn't even asked to be at the birth, and has given no indication of what level of involvement he wants in the baby's life. He is really remidial on this. All he says is "I love this baby/I want to be a father", but can't get beyond that.
