DB, yes i spoke to the neo-post natal psychiatrist alone before bringing H into the 2nd or 3rd session. the session was very upsetting, highlighting our differences only. it was either poorly managed, or too early for us - or probably too early for ME. Also, in my country, just try to find any counselor who IS pro-marriage!!! I have searched and searched and I live in a secular individualist society (although, interestingly our divorce rate is 1 in 3, where in US it is 1 in 2 almost?)
Also,I couldn't handle what my husband was proposing in the session. When asked what his idea of fatherhood was, he said "I beleive there all are different ways of being a father. I can live on the other side of the world and stil be a father and see my child once in a while. I am OK with that".
Sorry, but I just wanting to hit the roof & subsequently said "Well, what's the different between that and me brining up the child alone. I'll just find someone who WANTS to be Dad, wants to be there".
He has no concept of parenting.
Do you think I should suggest he go back to the counselor alone?
