Things are great now, I go to these boards to give a little advice, to show those out there that these techniques worked for me, and to also remind me of where I was 14 months ago.
My timeline went something like this, 1st of Jan 2009- got the bomb and did not see it coming at all.
from that time to about 2 weeks begged and pleaded for her to come back, don't do this to our children, blah blah blah.
Then I absolutely unloaded on her times in the span of 48 hours. After that I was done, finished. She told me that I cannot speak to her that way, and I said, you know where I stand and that I have nothing else to say.
from then on, started to DB my ass off, and really saw results, almost immediately.
Feb, she started to see IC. Then invited me in MC about 2 months after that.
All in all about a 6 month deal. I absolutely am positive that if I had not come to this site and listened, (and I felt I was really good with listening here)I would be divorced today.
That, of course, is the very short vague version of it, and no I did not leave the house as she requested, and I left my bedroom for about 5 days, when i decided that I wanted to sleep in my bed, this was not my fault.
It is very important that you got off your butt and got a job, women tent to tie there love for their husband with respect for him. Be the man, take charge and lead, she will follow.
