Also it's a form of blame to say "want me to be someone else" (yeah, not an addict) and "nothing I do is good enough" (no, just mostly one thing isn't good enough-- your addiction).
It's blame and denial. You should prob. read some of those materials they have for members of A.A. and NA's families. They even have a Marijuana Anonymous, I think. I know they don't think they're addicts because they have good jobs and only use it to relax and sleep, but there are alcoholics that fit that description too...
