Looking for help with WAW

[james217]

Sandi, thanks for sharing your perspective regarding how my W might act during any possible reconciliation. I know it will be a long journey but I am ready and willing. If I'm lucky enough for that to happen I will take things at my W's pace. Listening to your comments helps me understand a bit more what my W might be going through.

Gr8 day 2B alive, thank you for sharing that list. I guess I'm beginning the 2nd stage. My W and I are becoming "friendly". No R talk yet but that's ok. That does seem very positive that your W is willing to take some time off work so you can go on your trip. Looks like your sitch is a couple of months further along than mine. I've seen a few very small positive signs from my W. My DB coach helped me to see these positive things...made me feel better about the sitch.

Sandi, I definitely see how far down the list any possible recommitment will be. I'm willing to continue to put in the work. I can't let 19 wonderful years together just go away and not be willing to put whatever amount of time it will take to heal this M. Since my W is not in an A, what are some of the things she might have trouble letting go of and also have trouble facing? I think you mentioned coming back to reality as one thing, any others? What helps a W come out of her fog when there isn't another man? Time I guess?

On a positive note, I am going back to working nights at my real estate career. I took steps to make that happen today. Looking forward to it. Now I'll be active in my 3 jobs. Hoping the real estate career comes back strong. I'd like to be able to get back to it full time one day. W wanted me to get over my company closing (depression)and get a job for the past 2 years. Well, W, look at me now! Went to the gym yesterday, first time in over a month. Felt good to get back. Unfortunately I got food poisioning last night and have been sick as a dog this morning. Feeling better now and off for my evening plans. It's nice to get back to a sense of normalcy in my life. Starting to get my life back in order again. Would be nice to include my W in it again one day. W has originally told me when she left me that people don't change. Wrong! I'll say it again, look at me now W! W, you should come back and join me!

Feeling good today, can you tell?

cool man. I need to start hitting the gym myself. I think alot of times we get too ocmfortable. The same thing you did to woo your spouse you have to do to keep her there. Otherwise problems come about.

I'm glad you had a good day yesterday mza. Anything to update?