Lavish all the love and attention you can on them. Make some great memories. Talk talk talk. And have fun!
Curious what the gift was all about and what prompted you to do that.
Glad you recovered quickly.
Human beings are pretty hardwired with a sense of obligation. Friendships are built on reciprocity. I do something nice for you, you do something nice for me. But the person to do the first nice thing now is owed something by the recipient.
If your W had accepted the gift, she would have felt a sense of obligation to reciprocate. She doesn't want to be obligated to you, she wants to be independent. By doing it in front of the kids, you probably further annoyed her because she didn't want to say or do anything perceived as ungracious or mean in front of the children. But she still felt she couldn't accept it.
What's done is done. No expectations. Just forget about it. Enjoy the time with your kids.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
