@Coach and @Gypsy - I know I can't make her do anything. I just find it mystifying - honestly, I just don't get it. Plus I know how it's going to impact the 2 kids. They already complain about being 2nd-class citizens to her (not that they use that term, but they have the concept down). And yes - her choice and choices have consequences. I just hate that there's so much collateral damage.
