Hi Maria, been reading and it just occured to me that this sounds like a woman doing work to save her marriage but at the same time hoping her H will say the bar keeps getting higher and I will never reach that standard,lets call it a day. IF you had never had your "friend" would you be less inclined to know every detail of your H's A.? I am not for a moment suggesting that your fling was comparable to his A.or getting into the which came first etc. apportioning blame or anything like that but if you could imagine what your thoughts /needs might have been IF that summer had never happened. Just hypothetical really cos it did happen and it changed you. Would you choose your H now as a partner ? husband, cos to an outsider you seem to be pushing him away. No one one would blame you if you did but you seem to want to play the game of I tried to make it work but he didn't give me enough. Honesty time I think. As I said random thoughts from an outsider. Put what your kids want aside and how it will look to others and your family etc, What does Maria want given that she knows the man her H is? Easter Blessings to you and yours.
