SR - I am so glad you came back and posted! I had been thinking about you and wondering what was happening.
Wow, your H does seem to be firmly in replay right now. You sound like you have picked yourself up and made some wise decisions for your and your kids and sound great!
With your H's parents' history I wouldn't doubt he has in his mind you will just stick around and wait for him.
Sounds like you are doing all things considered. Please keep posting so we can keep up with you!