DB Friends, My W was upset with me most of Sunday, during our cooking day. She was stressed, as she feels behind in housecleaning, and is fighting a UTI. We made it thru the cooking day effeciently and finished at a reasonable time.
She told me that her feelings were hurt on Saturday night, and that I was mean to her. She doesn't factor in how her actions affect others. I refrained from apologizing, because I didn't say anything mean to her, though I was irritated with her criticism. She complains that I go ballroom dancing weekly, and practice with a crowd that is probably 2/3 casual social dancers.
I think the problem to solve is how to move the dance relationship forward into a ballroom partnership. We've established a Salsa partnership. I told her that if she's willing to practice ballroom with me, I don't have to go to my weekday ballroom venue every week. I can give her first priority, and see how that goes. If she wants me to proceed more quickly in ballroom, she would be wise to assist me.
Our Hustle Formation partnership is going well. She told me the other day, that I'm looking more like John Travolta. My dance teacher told me recently, that she thinks there's a dancer inside of me wanting to come out. I'm so glad that I told my W about this dance team, and reluctantly agreed to do it. I've stretched myself, already in just three weeks.
My W is planning on setting a quit date for smoking cessation. She told me to remind her, if she hasn't started in several weeks.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
