Healing my Heart part 8

[fightingirish]

Hey Jak! Funny you should ask... hopefully you are doing great I hope... how is everybody?

Tried to get on with my blackberry last night and couldn't... I left H for the night with the kids...

It a long and drawn out story, but to sum up... S7 and S4 were rough housing around and S7 had my scarf around his neck... H said he was choking him... I don't believe it, S7 is just not the aggresive type... playing around yes I beleive that. H went bonkers (he has been home sick for two day UGG!) over it and said he could have really hurt him , but he really went to the extreme. I came downstairs to find out what was going on. He yelled at me saying I wasn't down here and that I should be backing him up. I sent S7 to his room and just took the kids upstairs. S7 later told me that they were just horsing around and that H started yelling and screaming. I went to put them to bed, then I was dreading going to bed myself. I was so mad that he has to handle thing with such anger.

We got into it and it got bad. He blew things out of proportion.If he was around more he would know S7 wasn't capable of hurting S4, he just doesn't have it in him. He said it doesn't matter if it was on purpose or not, he could have hurt him... he didn't stop with the insults and swearing so I said im leaving.

Left and went to hotel. S7 told me he didn't like his dad and that he wanted me to break up with him. Ok so what the heck do I say to that. I defended H up to a point by saying that you cannot wrap anything around your brothers neck even if you are just playing around its dangerous and that his father was just concerned about S4 safety.

He wasn't buying that. I am afraid with S7, he really is building up resentment towards H. I Don't know how to handle it.

We are home, H went to work thank goodness, He thinks im posioning the boys against him, when in fact its the opposite. I try to defend him, but some things I just don't have an answer for. He also tells me that I think im better than him?? WTH???

im am stressed beyond belief. What do you tell your son that is asking for you to leave your H??? Some advice would be appreicated, but I just don't know what to do at this point.