First of all, sorry to see you are here. Second, you are in the right place if you want to save your marriage.
Remember this all revolves around you - not your H. You are really doing this for you and your kids. If the M works out, great. If not you will have a life afterward.
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That will get you started. I'm sure you will get lots of advice from the long time DB'ers soon.
Bottom line now is to wait and be silent ASAP. Wait for him to come to you rather than you pursuing.
