before she left we had a discussion about counseling, but it never happened, after she left I asked her about counseling and at one point she said she would go then changed her mind.
I set up an appointment with one of our church pastors but she wouldn't go.
Then I saw a marriage counselor for the 1st time, I had thought we had previously been to marriage counseling, but it wasn't until the Senior pastor at our church told me we previously were getting pastoral counseling, while my wife and I thought it was marriage counseling, it would have been nice if the distinction had been made sooner.
I have been to marriage counseling a few times by myself, and I am honestly willing to do whatever it takes to save my marriage, but I just don't know what to do.
I think my wife is making a major mistake and I am worried by the time she realizes it, I will be tired of waiting for her and not be interested in reconciliation, that is one reason why I have not given up on her so far.
Part of the problem is her father was not around much when she was growing up and that has caused some issues with her, and her father is on his 6th marriage and she has been taught to run away from problems or throw away a marriage instead of trying to make things better.
