Dianamo --- Wow, you nailed it exactly how it has played out in my situation. I have taken all the blame, then blamed her (in my head) thought about all of the things I tried to do right and questioned if that was the right move but at the end of the day, it was all about her and her decision to end this. I remember talking to a buddy of mine early on in my marital problems and he told me "no matter what you do, it will never be right and it will never be enough" --- at the time I guess I kinda dismissed it but looking back now , he was exactly right!!
I thought about the whole process the other day and she was done, absolutely done, before I even knew we had a problem so the last year and 1/2 of me trying to do everything in my power to save this marriage just didn’t matter because she was just going through the motions and trying to validate her actions --- oh well, at least I know in my heart that I really did try and give it my all.
Funny, but when I feel the best about this situation is when I am moving on, taking care of myself, having fun, doing what I like to do and focusing on me! Got to do more of that for my own sanity.
Keep in touch.
NSD
Me 47 WAW 48 No Kids M-20y T-24y B#1 2-20-09 B#2 4-23-09-WAW Moved Out B#3 3-8-10-WAW Filed for D My Sitch:http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1823907#Post1823907
