Very simply, if you can understand and apply this one, you can learn to understand and apply any self help book.
Note: This one should be read in conjunction with Michelle's thoughts about Trying Something Different...
Good Grief by Granger Westburg
A VERY SHORT and helpful primer on dealing with change in your world....
"Is it you or is it me? (why couples play the blame game) by Scott Wetzler. ( again, from Crisch's library)
Helps in understanding our own perceptions and baggage in relation to the marriage relationship.
"Tuesdays with Morrie" by Mitch Albom
a highly aclaimed book about life's enduring lessons from a dying man to a young man in search of answers... ( Crisch's ex-husband read this book before he left...., as I read it this past week, it echoed all the themes and puzzles I dealt with in my own MLC....)
"The essential Crazy Wisdom" by Wes Nisker....
a convoluted but entertaining book describing how life simply doesn't make any sense..... and never will... and how to manage that perception.... for anyone who wants to learn about Michelle's "counter-intuitive" thinking .....
"Passionate Marriage" (author's last name is Schnarch)
A very long book about how a sexual therapist assits people in understanding larger issues in their lives by assiting them ni the bedroom... not for prudes, but very informative about "hangin on to yourself" in the middle of conflict.
as Dr. Phil would say, the tempuratutre of the amrriage is measured ni the bedroom.... Schanrch examines it closely.... but it is NOT a "how to" book.
Having not read Michelles' Sex Starved Mariage book yet, I cannot compare it... but I suspect it would be a fitting companion book for anyone who is into heavy thinking....
these are my added worthy library additions
From Barbie Doll in the MLC archives:
Well, I was just about to add to the list & see that Paul beat me to it with "Love Languages". Another book he suggested for me is "Crazy Time" - surviving divorce and building a new life by Abigail Trafford.
The Divorce Recovery Sourcebook by Dawn Bradley Berry is very helpful
Taking the High Road by Nailah Shami - how to cope with your ex-husband and maintain your sanity.
Of course I picked these books up later in my own journey. I still found Divorce Remedy the best & have read many of the books previously suggested here.
Snodderly - I promise to return your books soon, so someone else can benefit from them.
Barb
From Sparky in the MLC Archives:
Let me add that all of these books are great EVEN IF YOUR GOAL IS RECONCILIATION!
Spiritual Divorce - Debbie Ford Mars & Venus Starting Over - John Gray Living Alone and Loving It - Barbara Feldon The Journey from Abandonment to Healing - Susan Anderson Oh Solo Mia
M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)
