Like my lawyer told me, "You have no control over how little time your spouse wants to spend with the children."
I am familiar with the wigging out. This guy is now more or less shunned by his children, a father in name only. Or a father of occasional 2 minute phone calls, holiday diner breakfasts with an occasional one thrown in.
Do not expect that what is important to you is important to her. Do not do her thinking for her.
Document her recreational travel time and how it coincidences with meaningful dates.
Keep track of everything.
She's nasty. The former spouse is nasty. And each feels justified by their behavior. Bullies, those who feel hidden shame, can be like that.
She and her lawyer respond to threats, being called into court. You are not a victim. Talk to your lawyer about strategies to deal with your adversary based on their experiences.
In the end, I receive 25% of his bonuses along with the basic alimony. Being underemployed, as you can show, is a reflection of how to parent your children as a family. The childcare would probably even out the increase in pay when all factors are taken into account. And the children lose, something in theory the courts have to see happen.
If venting as a funny guy helps you, keep doing it. But if it eats at your craw, learn to let it go. It's tough but eventually leads you on the road to health.
Only you can be the parent you want the children to have. No one else.
